CHILD ABUSE PART AND PARCEL OF PATRIARCHY
(“Patriarchy is BASED ON HURTING OTHERS, especially the most vulnerable, children, animals, women and weaker men or those who CAN BE HURT.” Rasa Von Werder)
By William Bond
In the 19th century the way children were treated would be seen as child-abuse today. They had a saying, “spare the rod and spoil the child.” Beating children with a stick was considered ‘normal’, as it was also “normal” for husbands to beat wives.
In a Patriarchal world men freely use force and violence to get their own way. They would not only be abusing women but their own children
This attitude came from the male dominated society– where males were encouraged to dominate women and children through violence.
The abuse of children was written about by the author Alice Miller, in her books, “For Your Own Good: The Roots of Violence in Child-rearing,” and, “Thou Shalt Not Be Aware: Society’s Betrayal of the Child.” She points out how cruel child rearing was in a male-dominated society. What she described is probably true in Islamic countries today.
Children were also routinely subjected to sexual child abuse. This came to light through the work of a young Sigmund Freud. In 1896, Sigmund Freud presented a paper entitled “The Aetiology of Hysteria”. In this paper he posited that the neuroses suffered by his patients stemmed from sexual assaults and violence suffered as children. Most of this came from their own fathers, brothers and male relations in respectable middle class homes. After presenting his paper Freud was pressured to withdraw it.
OUR LORD JESUS IS CRUCIFIED AGAIN AND AGAIN IN THE WORK MEN DO
RASA SAYS:
In military questionnaires, 49% of females admitted sexual abuse by their Dads, and 25% of males. By my calculations, then, one out of every three Dads in America molests his children.
I am really glad William Bond brought up this subject – it’s a vital bit of information as to how prevalent molestation is by fathers, relatives and other men. If one half of girls and a quarter of boys are molested by the Dad, then what are the percentages when you factor in these other relatives, friends, men in charge of children and even strangers? It would be staggering. (My guess, 60% at least have been affected.) It would be unusual for a child to escape this kind of assault. And I might add this is because of Patriarchy – it’s lack of protection of children, in fact, I believe it is structured for males to have access to them for their harm.
To put it another way, and this is shocking, Patriarchy is BASED ON HURTING OTHERS, especially the most vulnerable, children, animals, women and weaker men or those who CAN BE HURT.
William Bond continues:
His paper was singled out from all the others NOT to be presented in 1896 Vienna and NOT be published in psychoanalysis’s Journal “Wiener Klinische Wochenschrift”. Moreover, NO DISCUSSION OF HIS ARTICLE WAS ALLOWED. In the end, Freud caved in to increasing pressure. He withdraw his paper TO SAVE HIS CAREER. He then sold out completely, changing his theories. Now he claimed the patient’s neuroses came from their sexual FANTASIES rather than actual abuse. (Rasa: Sound familiar? The child who goes to Mom with the complaint is told they are lying, and SHUT UP!) Now the blame for the neuroses landed on the victim, not the perpetrator. (Rasa: Just as we rape victims are blamed for rape. I have been in criminal justice cases where men raped me or beat me up. No justice was served. I was questioned in a way to discover why I caused it, and what is my sex life apart from this? Really CREEPY.)
WOMEN HAVE TROUBLE PROTECTING THEIR SHEEP BECAUSE THE WOLVES ARE IN THE HOUSE
RASA SAYS:
This about Freud has troubled me, as I have studied him since age of fourteen. I was his fan until I hard of this, as I knew this was evil. I’m glad William points out that he collapsed under pressure to save his career. I thought he was just a misogynist that could not believe his patients and thought their complaints were fantasies. So he KNEW THEY WERE TRUE AND HE SOLD THEM OUT!
It is obvious why men did not allow Freud to posit these findings – because they are the abusers – the guilty don’t want to be exposed. These “doctors of psychology” wanted to continue abusing, not healing. So Freud became part of the cover up, nothing to give him a medal for. It remained for so many more years – 1979 to be exact – the Manhattan Beach Child Care Center scandal – for child abuse to come out into the open and facts about it to go viral. (Look up Ted Gunderson, former FBI Chief, who found out the truth about that scandal, where no one was convicted of anything—and what he discovered will blow your mind.)
We are not surprised as more and more facts about male evil are coming to the front. After all, Patriarchy is set up for that very thing – so males can make war, have slaves, dominate women, children and animals, all to the harm of the entire earth, for the misery of all living things.
William Bond continues:
In a Patriarchal world men freely use force and violence to get their own way. They would not only be abusing women but their own children. This has changed in the 20th century with the rise of feminism and female power, where men might be put into jail for beating or raping their wives and children. So today, not even Roman Catholic priests can get away with child abuse so easily.
WHAT CAN WOMEN DO? THEY WERE TURNED POWERLESS FOR THE MOST PART SO MEN COULD HAVE THEIR WAY, BUT THIS WILL STOP SOON.
The result is that now there is less child abuse in the Western world. Our society has restrained the violence of men, and women are getting confident and assertive. What is happening was predicted in the 19th century when it was said that if you don’t “harden” (brutalise) boys they will become wimps.
RASA SAYS:
These are interesting posits. On the one hand, males are getting less aggressive, more feminine, while women are gaining aggression and machisma. There is more than one reason for the male condition – part of it could be their declining Y chromosome (Y chromosome is deteriorating and cannot repair itself, women don’t have a Y, they have two X chromosomes), another the pollution which is feminizing them even from the womb (female hormones in the water from medical wastes, pthalates from plastic leaching into water, is actually damning boys masculine development in the womb.)
Secondly, there have been two highly successful waves of feminism in modern times – the uprising of women since the times of “abolition” (fight to remove slavery) and the Betty Friedan work in the sixties, has sent males into panic. They are frightened and act out their anger and dominance against women and children, but year after year, the women aren’t getting any tamer and I have noticed that men are giving up – giving up and caving in, literally collapsing like cardboard houses. Their “strength” was delusion, smoke and mirrors, lies.
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MOTHER GOD HAS HEARD THE CRIES OF THE POOR, THE SUFFERING. SHE IS CHANGING THINGS, AND, THEY ARE GOING TO COME FAST.
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WITHOUGHT THE MOTHER LOVE LIFE IS EMPTY, LIFE IS DESOLATE, LIFE IS HELL
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William Bond continues:
Unfortunately, boys are still encouraged by books, comics, films, TV and video games to be violent and macho. In these dramas, whoever is the most skilled at violence wins. Governments encourage this, because they need violent males for military.
RASA SAYS: Sure. I have seen how they squashed the studies of James W. Prescott, in 1981, after years of his study and observation, that certain civilizations are peaceful, and others are violent. The peaceful ones have intimacy with Mom, closeness, in childhood; then female sexuality is not repressed. But the opposite bodes violence. These findings are INDISPUTABLE. OUR GOVERNMENT forced him to give up the research or be fired – he was fired. Our government is the most military on earth, so they found what they wanted – the world is just as they wish it, with “attachment disorder” rampant, pandemic, resulting in broken, dysfunctional people who without a strong foundation wander the earth unhappy, miserable without SUBSTANCE ABUSE, overeating, anxiety, depression, sexual woes, homicide and suicide in the wake: JUST AS A VIOLENT GOVERNMENT LIKES IT. After all, what happy, balanced people are going to go to war to kill and be killed, to rape and plunder and devastate an innocent population?
William Bond continues:
If female power can save so many children from abuse by men, the same can be said of female power being used to save the whole world from violence and poverty.
It doesn’t take a genius to work out that men do an incredibly bad job of ruling our world. In the whole of history we find male leaders who settle disputes warfare. Not only that, there is, and always has been, a large gap between rich and poor, because men see everything in terms of winners and losers, with the rich and powerful being the winners and the poor the losers.
RASA SAYS:
This is one of the original expressions of William Bond, regarding the rich being the winners and the poor being the losers, an earmark of Patriarchy.
I might insert here that it was Marija Gimbutas who explained that in the pre-patriarchy days, the Queens lived almost the same as the rest of the folks, with no poverty and NO WARFARE. People lived in villages of 10 to 15 thousand. All was run by women, there was a Mother God, and peace. Women were respected, men obeyed them.
William Bond continues:
War and poverty will always be with us while men rule our world. So if we want to live in less violent and just world, then we need to do everything possible toward female authority.
Now, it has to be admitted that females who achieved political and economic power were not compassionate. The main reason for this is that when women enter politics and business within the Patriarchal world, they have to behave like men. They are forced to join a boy’s club and play by the rules created by men. The businesses and political parties are all Patriarchal with the same agendas.
This means we will not see the caring side of leadership until Matriarchal politics, businesses develop. In order for women to come into power and practice benevolence, the entire playing field has to change, the world can no longer be based on war, a dog eat dog, rat race society.
RASA SAYS:
Indeed, lone wolf women appeared on the scene and imitated men; there have been a lot of dicks in skirts. However, I have noticed that as matriarchy is emerging, the women leaders coming forth are doing amazing good – things we never saw from men. Indeed, the entire system is evolving slowly but surely, and a woman cannot enter Patriarchy and change it single handedly, it has to happen by millions of people changing their ideas, beliefs and actions. It’s a wholesale, worldwide change that has to occur, no female knight in shining armour can change the entire world. Buddah, Jesus couldn’t change it, how could one woman?
William Bond continues:
The point is that as we see throughout history and our world today, the more men control and dominate society the more unfair, brutal and violent it becomes. While the more women can take control and dominate our world the more loving and caring it becomes. So if we want a loving and caring world then it is up to us to ensure it is women who rule every aspect of our lives.
RASA SAYS: This is happening through education, after which follows employment and leadership. As of 2004 women scored a majority of degrees in higher education, including that of doctors, and this after years of being fettered educationally while boys were propped up. When the props fell and women could enter the best schools, they surged forward while males fell behind. Males even started dropping out of high school so badly that Canada declared it might pass a law where you can’t get a driver’s license unless you have a high school diploma (this in the effort to encourage boys).
Right now (2014) there are more men than women of working age, but MORE WOMEN ARE WORKING, since 2013 of married couples in the United States, MORE WOMEN ARE THE CHIEF BREADWINNER. Women are getting wealthier, soon there will be a role reversal, as I predicted since 2004, where women will seek a new kind of male, for his beauty and personality, not for money, and with men seeking women the other way around.
As for leadership, the golden rule is the one who has the gold makes the rule. Males ruled through resources – they had them. How they got them was not lawful, it was war – and discrimination. Now they are losing their advantage, women are gaining and they will have the upper hand. They will soon take over politics, companies, governments – it’s starting. We are on our way to that world which William Bond asks for.
From William Bond, comments by Rasa Von Werder, 3 3 2014
