Pornography is extremely popular on the internet, as many men seem to like it. Yet at the same time, most women don’t seem to like it at all, and many are very hostile to it. So why is there this big difference between the sexes on this subject?

Pornography is about sex and men and women have different attitudes about sex. For men, sex seems to be about depositing semen inside women, but most men do not think much about, what happens afterwards. But women cannot have this attitude, because if the semen makes her pregnant, then she then has a child growing inside her. Then when it is born, she has to devote her life into looking after that child. So for this reason, what sex means to men, is very different to what it means for women.

How little men think about fertilization is shown in porn videos, because most of it doesn’t show man’s semen going inside a woman’s vagina but more inside a woman’s mouth or anus, or even just on her face or breasts. This is generally the climax of the film. (no pun intended). All this is far too mechanical and limiting for most women, because women are more interested in relationships.

Most women prefer romance rather than pornography; because romantic stories are about the relationship between men and women. There is a very good reason for this. Once a woman becomes pregnant, then she is going to be better off looking after her child, if she can receive the help and support of the child’s father. So a romantic story of a man who falls in love with a woman, and loves her so much, that when she has children, he devotes his life to looking after her and her children. Is what most women want. This then, is why romantic stories are far more appealing to a woman, than pornography.

So if romantic stories are very appealing to women, why aren’t they also appealing to men? Why is it that so many men will prefer a pornography story, than a romantic story? The reason could be about how men and women think about love.

For most women, love is not a choice; it is very difficult for a woman not to love. The reason for this, is that women have a very powerful maternal instinct. For most species of animal to survive, it is important that the female want to have young and nurture them, until they reach breeding age. This instinct is even more important for human beings because the human baby is the most helpless newborn in the animal kingdom. As it can take up to 20 years to become an adult. So, for the human species to survive, it means that the human female has to have a very powerful maternal instinct in caring for and protecting her children. This means, women have very little choice in wanting to love. This maternal instinct is so strong that women not only love children, they also love animals and men as well. We can see this in the caring professions, like nursing, old people carers, teachers and social workers are dominated by women.

On the other hand, men do have a choice about whether he wishes to love others. In evolutionary terms, men can fertilize many different women and therefore father lots of children and not be involved in caring for any of them, if he doesn’t wish, to do so. This is one of the reasons why human societies have marriage, laws and customs. Is to try and force men to stay and help to look after the children they have fathered. This attitude of mind is reflected in pornography.

One of the reasons why many women do not like pornography is that it is devoid of love. Women like romantic stories about love, but men are not so sure about this. The reason for this, is that, if you fall in love, then you are ‘hooked’. In other words if you deeply love another person, then you many find yourself devoting your life to caring about other people. For this reason, many men are wary about getting married, and forming relationships as they want freedom to do as they like. This is also why men like pornography, because it is mostly about sex without love. Men do like to have fantasies about having sex with women, without having all the problems of loving relationships or having to care for children. Women on the other hand have no choice in this, it is far harder for women to divorce sex from love and the nurturing of children.

Another thing that many women don’t like about pornography is that some of it goes further than just being unloving. Some of it, is about men degrading and hurting women. So why is this? The reason probably is, is that if men do fear loving a woman, then the defense against this, is hatred. By hating women, allows men to have sex with them, without getting emotionally involved in them.

It can be even get more problematic that this. Men do want and need women to love them, but when this happens, it is hard not to love women in return. So hate becomes the antidote to love, as men find themselves in a position of hating the women who loves them. This is shown in extreme porn videos, where women are shown being loving towards men and only receiving abuse in return. These men do not even like to acknowledge these women are being loving, and accuse these abused women of being, kinky, perverted or masochistic. Psychologists claim that women who love abusive men are masochistic because they lack self-esteem. They do not comment on the powerful maternal instinct of women, which allows them to love these types of men. So it is not about her being kinky, perverted or masochistic or any of the other labels people place on these women, but just about the expression of her powerful maternal and loving instincts.

The same cannot be said about men who abuse loving women. It is true they are simply resisting feelings of love, they have for others. Therefore, it is perfectly reasonable for a man, not to want to love, so he is free to do what he likes. But it is not so understandable if he abuses women who love him. Or fathers children and runs away, the moment his girlfriend is pregnant or gives birth.

Another problem women have with pornography is that the type of sex that is written about or shown, is unlikely to give a woman pleasure. Certainly a woman is not going to receive an orgasm through having a penis in her mouth or anus, but this can also be true, if a woman has a penis in her vagina. A very large number of women cannot orgasm through vagina stimulated. The reason for this, is that orgasm can only happen, if the clitoris is stimulated. If a woman has her clitoris close to the opening of her vagina, then the penis might rub against it while the penis is pumping inside her and so she may be able to have an orgasm. But if there is no contact between the penis and clitoris through penetrative sex, then it is very difficult for this to happen. This is still true, even if the man has a gigantic penis.

The problem is, that if a woman tries to explain this to some men, he can see it as a criticism of his sexual performance. As a result, she can be accused of being frigid, and encouraged to see a doctor or a psychologist. Because of this, many women end up faking an orgasm, to spare herself this aggravation. This faking also happens in pornographic stories and videos. For this reason, seeing a porn actress faking an orgasm from penetrative sex, is not going to excite a woman, who knows the “orgasm” is faked..

It seems most women can only orgasm through direct clitoris stimulation, which means that the man has to either use his finger or tongue. Pornography is full of stories and videos of women giving men oral sex but there is not a lot about men giving oral sex to women. And even when that is shown, very few of it shows a man licking a woman’s clitoris until she orgasms. So for this reason, as far as women are concerned, pornography is only about men’s pleasure and not about what women enjoy.

So the differences between the sexes, in their attitude to pornography and romance are all to do about their different feelings about love. Women are looking for love and relationships in their sex lives, whereas many men prefer to separate sex from love. In this, there doesn’t seem to be a lot of compromise. Many men have learnt to have loving relationships with women when they live with them and have a family. But it is very difficult for women to have sexual relationships without love. It is true women working in the sex industry are expected to do this, but they don’t find it easy. The stereotype of the prostitute with the heart of gold is true, because women find it too difficult to suppress their maternal instincts.

The problem nowadays is that many teenage boys learn all about sex from watching pornographic films and if all they see is about men being selfish lovers or abusing women, and the women faking orgasms, then these young men will get the wrong idea about having sex with women. This will cause problems and misunderstanding when he attempts o have sex with a real-life woman. The only way to counter this would be for women to make their own pornographic films that will appeal to women. So it will be hard core films with love and romance in them, and male porn actors who actually know how to pleasure women properly and give them what they want and enjoy.

This will give the women who see these films the confidence to resist the unrealistic demands made by young men who have seen pornography. Also, if there is any argument about how they should have sex, the women can refer him to these more female friendly pornographic films to get a proper sex-education. So films like this can help couples in educating them in how they can both enjoy sex together.

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Guru Rasa Comments on the William Bond article

 

Pornography V Romance – By William Bond

Pornography is extremely popular on the internet, as many men seem to like it.

 

RASA SAYS: INDEED. BOYS BEGIN WATCHING PORN ON THE INTERNET AVERAGE AGE ELEVEN. HOTELS/MOTELS WHICH PROVIDE INTERNET SERVICE REVEAL THAT 50% OF WHAT IS ACCESSED IS PORNO.

Yet at the same time, most women don’t seem to like it at all, and many are very hostile to it.

RASA SAYS: I AGREE WITH ALL WILLIAM SAYS. HOW CAN WOMEN ENJOY A TYPE OF SEX ACT THAT IS DEGRADING TO THEM? IT TURNS THEM INTO THINGS THAT MUST BE EXPLOITED, USED & DEBASED, OFTEN WITH BODY-PUNISHING ACTIVITY, MULTIPLE PARTNERS WHO DON’T LOVE THEM, NO FOREPLAY, NO AFFECTION.

So why is there this big difference between the sexes on this subject? Pornography is about sex and men and women have different attitudes about sex. For men, sex seems to be about depositing semen inside women, but most men do not think much about, what happens afterwards.

RASA SAYS: “SPERM DONORS.” IT’S ABOUT THE PLEASURE OF THE RELEASE, & THE FEEL-GOOD HORMONES. EVERYONE WANTS TO FEEL GOOD, BUT THE MALE GETS TO FEEL GOOD WHILE THE FEMALE DOESN’T, IN PORNO & NORMAL PATRIARCHAL SEX. WHAT I AM TRYING TO DO NOW IS BRING THE LOVE & AFFECTION BACK INTO SEXUALITY, & CREATE A LOVE NEST THAT PLEASURES WOMEN.

But women cannot have this attitude, because if the semen makes her pregnant, then she then has a child growing inside her. Then when it is born, she has to devote her life into looking after that child. So for this reason, what sex means to men, is very different to what it means for women.

RASA SAYS: WILLIAM SPEAKS THE TRUTH. BUT BESIDES CHILDBIRTH, THERE IS LOVE, WHICH MAKES LIFE WORTH LIVING, BESIDES SIMPLY BREEDING, EVERY WOMAN WANTS TO FEEL LOVED AS MEN DO ALSO. WHERE IS THE LOVE? THE MAN “GETS OFF,” WHICH MAKES HIM FEEL LOVED – THE WOMAN DOESN’T, WHICH MAKES HER FEEL DEPRIVED. IN A PATRIARCHAL WORLD, THE SATISFACTION GOES TO THE MAN.

How little men think about fertilization is shown in porn videos, because most of it doesn’t show man’s semen going inside a woman’s vagina but more inside a woman’s mouth or anus, or even just on her face or breasts. This is generally the climax of the film. (no pun intended). All this is far too mechanical and limiting for most women, because women are more interested in relationships. Most women prefer romance rather than pornography; because romantic stories are about the relationship between men and women. There is a very good reason for this. Once a woman becomes pregnant, then she is going to be better off looking after her child, if she can receive the help and support of the child’s father. So a romantic story of a man who falls in love with a woman, and loves her so much, that when she has children, he devotes his life to looking after her and her children. Is what most women want. This then, is why romantic stories are far more appealing to a woman, than pornography.

RASA SAYS: YES, WOMEN ARE ABOUT RELATIOSHIPS. BUT THE FIRST RELATIONSHIP IS WITH HIM, THE MAN, THEN THERE IS IN SOME CASES, THE CHILD, & IT BEGINS OVER & OVER AGAIN. SEX IS A PART OF A SPIRAL, A DANCE OF REPETITION, LOVE HAPPENS AGAIN, AGAIN & AGAIN. IT STARTS WITH BIRTH, THE CHILD LEARNS WHAT LOVE & SEX ARE FROM THE MOTHER. SHE TRANSFERS LOVE. THEN THE MAN NEEDS LOVE, THE SAME LOVE HE GOT FROM THE MOTHER. HE SEEKS OUT ANOTHER WOMAN. HE GETS THE LOVE, BUT GIVES LITTLE IN RETURN (MOST OF THE TIME.) THE WOMEN ARE LEFT DERIVED, FRUSTRATED & EMPTY. IT ISN’T FAIR. WE WANT TO REMEDY THAT IN OUR TEACHINGS, BRINGING BACK IDEAS THAT PLEASURE THE WOMAN.

So if romantic stories are very appealing to women, why aren’t they also appealing to men? Why is it that so many men will prefer a pornography story, than a romantic story? The reason could be about how men and women think about love. For most women, love is not a choice; it is very difficult for a woman not to love. The reason for this, is that women have a very powerful maternal instinct. For most species of animal to survive, it is important that the female want to have young and nurture them, until they reach breeding age.

This instinct is even more important for human beings because the human baby is the most helpless newborn in the animal kingdom. As it can take up to 20 years to become an adult. So, for the human species to survive, it means that the human female has to have a very powerful maternal instinct in caring for and protecting her children. This means, women have very little choice in wanting to love. This maternal instinct is so strong that women not only love children, they also love animals and men as well. We can see this in the caring professions, like nursing, old people carers, teachers and social workers are dominated by women. On the other hand, men do have a choice about whether he wishes to love others. In evolutionary terms, men can fertilize many different women and therefore father lots of children and not be involved in caring for any of them, if he doesn’t wish, to do so. This is one of the reasons why human societies have marriage, laws and customs. Is to try and force men to stay and help to look after the children they have fathered.

RASA SAYS: WILLIAM BRINGS UP AN INTERESTING POINT. IN PATRIARCHY, IT IS AS HE SAYS. BUT WHAT WAS IT LIKE IN MATRIARCHY? I BELIEVE WOMEN WERE THE PRIMARY PARENTS – THE MALES WERE NOT BURDENED WITH THE RESPONSIBILITY OF CARING FOR THEIR INDIVIDUAL CHILDREN, WOMEN WERE THE LEADERS, THE MAN’S JOB WAS INDEED AS SPERM DONOR, PLEASURE GIVER & WORKER. WOMEN TOOK CARE OF EVERYTHING, IN THEIR HANDS, CHILDREN WERE NURTURED & PROTECTED, THE MEN DID WHAT THEY HAD TO DO, WHAT THEY WERE CAPABLE OF. THEY DID NOT HAVE TO BE FAITHFUL, AS NO ONE CARED WHO THE FATHER WAS – ONLY WHO THE MOTHER IS. WOMEN HELD THE LEADERSHIP, THE RESOURCES. IN A MAN’S WORLD, HE SUPPOSEDLY IS THE FAITHFUL FATHER & HUSBAND, HE WORKS, GOES OUT, COMES HOME, ETC. BUT IN REALITY, MALES PREFER LOTS OF SEX PARTNERS – SO DO WOMEN IN MOST CASES, EXCEPT IN THE FIRST YEARS OF THE CHILD’S LIFE THEIR SEX DRIVE GOES DOWN! WOMEN WANT MULTIPLE PARTNERS MOST OF THE TIME, & IN MATRIARCHY, EVERYONE WAS ALLOWED. THE NUCLEAR FAMILYIS NOT NORMAL, NOT HAPPY, & DRAINS THE PSYCHIC ENERGY OF THE MALE. HE CANNOT HANDLE THIS KIND OF DISCIPLINE & RESPONSIBILITY.

This attitude of mind is reflected in pornography. One of the reasons why many women do not like pornography is that it is devoid of love. Women like romantic stories about love, but men are not so sure about this. The reason for this, is that, if you fall in love, then you are ‘hooked’. In other words if you deeply love another person, then you many find yourself devoting your life to caring about other people. For this reason, many men are wary about getting married, and forming relationships as they want freedom to do as they like. This is also why men like pornography, because it is mostly about sex without love. Men do like to have fantasies about having sex with women, without having all the problems of loving relationships or having to care for children. Women on the other hand have no choice in this, it is far harder for women to divorce sex from love and the nurturing of children.

RASA SAYS: LET MEN BE FREE, THEY AREN’T STRONG ENOUGH TO CARE FOR CHILDREN. THEIR ROLE IS TO GIVE US SEX PLEASURE & WORK – THE WOMEN WILL TAKE CARE OF THE CHILDREN PERFECTLY WITHOUT THEM, AS LONG AS THEY DO WHAT THEY ARE GOOD AT, WHAT THEY ARE SUITABLE FOR. WOMEN ARE THE LEADERS – LET THEM LEAD. IF WOMEN OWN THE RESOURCES, THEY WILL HANDLE THE ENTIRE ECONOMY EFFECTIVELY & PEACEFULLY, LET THE PEOPLE HAVE SEX WITH WHOMEVER THEY WANT, LET THE WOMEN TAKE CARE OF THE PEOPLE.

Another thing that many women don’t like about pornography is that some of it goes further than just being unloving. Some of it, is about men degrading and hurting women. So why is this? The reason probably is, is that if men do fear loving a woman, then the defense against this, is hatred. By hating women, allows men to have sex with them, without getting emotionally involved in them. It can be even get more problematic that this. Men do want and need women to love them, but when this happens, it is hard not to love women in return. So hate becomes the antidote to love, as men find themselves in a position of hating the women who loves them. This is shown in extreme porn videos, where women are shown being loving towards men and only receiving abuse in return.

RASA SAYS: IN THIS EVIL, PATRIARCHAL WORLD MEN ARE TAUGHT TO BE ABUSIVE. IT BEGINS BY ABUSING THE MEN, WHEN THEY ARE LITTLE – THEY ARE SEXUALLY MOLESTED BY MEN – WHICH ISN’T NORMAL, WHICH HURTS. MALES ARE HURT FROM INFANCY, BY MALES FORCING THEM TO HAVE PAINFUL & SCARY SEX WITH GROWN MEN. THIS DAMAGES THEM FOR LIFE, DAMAGES THEIR EMOTIONAL SYSTEMS, THEIR MINDS. THESE MEN HAVE TO BECOME “SHUT DOWN”, INSENSITIVE, EVEN SADISTIC, DEPENDING ON HOW MUCH ABUSE THEY TOOK. EVEN IF THEY HAD GOOD THINGS GOING FOR THEM IN OTHER WAYS, THE SEXUAL ABUSE OF BOYS DAMAGES THEM FOR LIFE, DAMAGES THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN & THEIR ABILITY TO MAKE LOVE & BE HAPPY. HOW MUCH SEX ABUSE IS GOING ON? IN THE OLD DAYS, ROMANS & GREEKS ROUTINELY TOOK BOYS AWAY FROM MOTHER STARTING AGE SEVEN. (THIS HAPPENS IN THE SAMBIA TRIBE TODAY) THESE DAYS THE ABUSE HAPPENS IN THE HOME MOST TIMES, OTHER TIMES WHEREVER MALES GAIN ACCESS TO BOYS. THIS IS A MAJOR PROBLEM LATER ON. STATISTICS SAY 25% OF BOYS ARE MOLESTED BY DADS. IF YOU FACTOR IN OTHER SITUATIONS, I GUESS THAT 50 OR MORE % ARE MOLESTED.

These men do not even like to acknowledge these women are being loving, and accuse these abused women of being, kinky, perverted or masochistic. Psychologists claim that women who love abusive men are masochistic because they lack self-esteem. They do not comment on the powerful maternal instinct of women, which allows them to love these types of men. So it is not about her being kinky, perverted or masochistic or any of the other labels people place on these women, but just about the expression of her powerful maternal and loving instincts. The same cannot be said about men who abuse loving women. It is true they are simply resisting feelings of love, they have for others. Therefore, it is perfectly reasonable for a man, not to want to love, so he is free to do what he likes. But it is not so understandable if he abuses women who love him. Or fathers children and runs away, the moment his girlfriend is pregnant or gives birth.

RASA SAYS: WOULDN’T IT BE A WONDERFUL WORLD IF WOMEN WERE NOT MATERNAL & DID NOT FORGIVE & LOVE MEN, & JUST TOOK REVENGE ON THEM, REFUSED TO LOVE THEM? WOULD THAT BE A TERRIFIC MEDICINE FOR THE CRUELTY OF MEN? PERHAPS WE SHOULD TRY THAT – IT HAS NOT BEEN TRIED. AS WOMEN ARE NOW GAINING ASCENDENCY & WILL CONTROL THE RESOURCES, INDEED, THEY CAN AFFORD TO THROW TO THE CURB THE EVIL MEN, AFTER THEY HAVE GOTTEN WHAT THEY WANT OUT OF THEM. IN OTHER WORDS, USE THE MEN ONLY FOR PLEASURE NOW, TREAT THEM AS SLAVES, DON’T MOLLY CODDLE THEM, DON’T FORGIVE. JUST HAVE PLEASURE, GET WHATEVER YOU WANT OUT OF THEM, & THROW THEM OUT INTO THE COLD – ONCE YOU HAVE THE RESOURCES & HE DOESN’T.

Another problem women have with pornography is that the type of sex that is written about or shown, is unlikely to give a woman pleasure. Certainly a woman is not going to receive an orgasm through having a penis in her mouth or anus, but this can also be true, if a woman has a penis in her vagina.

RASA SAYS: ABOUT PENIS IN THE ANUS. THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST DEMONICALLY CONCEIVED IDEAS PORNOGRAPHERS HAVE GOT. FIRST OFF, SEX IN THE ANUS IS PAINFUL & DANGEROUS,– THE ANUS HAS ONLY A BIT OVER 4” BEFORE HITTING BONE. ANAL SEX USUALLY CAUSES TEARS & LESIONS, WITH BLOOD, THEREFORE A COUPLE OF THINGS CAN HAPPEN. DEFECATION IN THE BLOOD CAN BE TOXIC. SECONDLY, MOST WOMEN WHO HAVE AIDS GOT IT FROM RECEPTIVE BACK DOOR SEX – 68% OF THEM. WHY? ONCE THE AIDS VIRUS GOES INTO THE INTESTINES, IT IS MOST LIKELY TO INFECT THE RECIPIENT. FURTHERMORE, THE PORNOGRAPHERS ARE TEACHING MALES THAT AN ANUS IS AS GOOD AS A VAGINA. NEXT STEP – HOMOSEXUALITY. SINCE MALES HAVE AN ANUS JUST LIKE A FEMALE, WHY NOT GET OFF WITH THEM? THEY ARE SAYING IT’S THE SAME THING.

A very large number of women cannot orgasm through only vaginal stimulation. The reason for this, is that orgasm can only happen, if the clitoris is stimulated.

RASA SAYS: MASTER’S & JOHNSON PROVED THIS IN THE LATE 60’S WHEN THEY TESTED ON 300 PROSTITUTES, WITH ELECTRODES. THE CLITORIS WAS THE ONLY PLACE OF ORGASM. NOW THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT “G SPOTS” & “SQUIRTING” – ALL LIES MADE UP BY MEN TO GARNER PORN SALES & GET MEN TWISTED.

If a woman has her clitoris close to the opening of her vagina, then the penis might rub against it while the penis is pumping inside her and so she may be able to have an orgasm. But if there is no contact between the penis and clitoris through penetrative sex, then it is very difficult for this to happen. This is still true, even if the man has a gigantic penis. The problem is, that if a woman tries to explain this to some men, he can see it as a criticism of his sexual performance. As a result, she can be accused of being frigid, and encouraged to see a doctor or a psychologist. Because of this, many women end up faking an orgasm, to spare herself this aggravation. This faking also happens in pornographic stories and videos. For this reason, seeing a porn actress faking an orgasm from penetrative sex, is not going to excite a woman, who knows the “orgasm” is faked.

RASA SAYS: WOMEN ARE FAKING ORGASMS ALL THE TIME, IT IS ONE OF THE MOST FREQUENTLY TOLD LIES. ANYONE CAN MOAN & GROAN, THERE IS NO PROOF SHE IS COMING. FURTHERMORE, THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS “MULTIPLE ORGASMS” IN A ROW – A WOMAN CAN CLAIM THIS, NO ONE HAS PROVEN IT—BECAUSE IT’S A LIE.

It seems most women can only orgasm through direct clitoris stimulation, which means that the man has to either use his finger or tongue. Pornography is full of stories and videos of women giving men oral sex but there is not a lot about men giving oral sex to women. And even when that is shown, very few of it shows a man licking a woman’s clitoris until she orgasms. So for this reason, as far as women are concerned, pornography is only about men’s pleasure and not about what women enjoy. So the differences between the sexes, in their attitude to pornography and romance are all to do about their different feelings about love. Women are looking for love and relationships in their sex lives, whereas many men prefer to separate sex from love. In this, there doesn’t seem to be a lot of compromise. Many men have learnt to have loving relationships with women when they live with them and have a family. But it is very difficult for women to have sexual relationships without love. It is true women working in the sex industry are expected to do this, but they don’t find it easy. The stereotype of the prostitute with the heart of gold is true, because women find it too difficult to suppress their maternal instincts completely.

The problem nowadays is that many teenage boys learn all about sex from watching pornographic films and if all they see is about men being selfish lovers or abusing women, and the women faking orgasms, then these young men will get the wrong idea about having sex with women. Which will cause problems and misunderstanding when he attempts o have sex with a real-life woman. The only way to counter this would be for women to make their own pornographic films that will appeal to women. So it will be hard core films with love and romance in them. And male porn actors who actually know how to pleasure women properly and give them what they want and enjoy. This will give the women who see these films the confidence to resist the unrealistic demands made by young men who have seen pornography. Also, if there is any argument about how they should have sex, the women can refer him to these more female friendly pornographic films to get a proper sex-education. So films like this can help couples in educating them in how they can both enjoy sex together.

RASA SAYS: RIGHT NOW OLD MEN ARE TEACHING YOUNG MEN WHAT SEX IS ALL ABOUT, HOW TO “ENJOY” IT, HOW TO DO IT, WHAT IS NORMAL, WHAT IS PLEASURABLE. THEY ARE TWISTING, PERVERTING & MISGUIDING YOUNG MALES, THE FALLOUT IS MISERY FOR WOMEN, DELUSION FOR MEN. INSTEAD, IF BOTH GENDERS SAW THE LIGHT, IF SOMEHOW WE WENT BACK TO PLEASURING WOMEN, IT WOULD BE A MUCH MORE HONEST & HUMANE WORLD. MEN ARE NOT WHAT MAKES THE WORLD GO ‘ROUND – WOMEN ARE. WOMEN CAN LIVE WITHOUT MEN, MEN CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT WOMEN. TO SAY THAT MEN MUST BE SERVED, WOMEN USED, IS A LIE FROM THE MOUTH OF SATAN. WHEN MOTHER GOD POWER RETURNS, WOMEN WILL ONCE MORE BE VENERATED, & ONE OF THE WAYS THEY ARE VENERATED, IS THROUGH THE ACT OF LOVE. WE WILL GIVE GUIDANCE TO MEN HOW TO LOVE WOMEN, HOW TO RESPECT THEM & PLEASURE THEM.

From William Bond, comments Rasa Von Werder, Nov. 17, 2013.

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Sex Discussion: William Bond & Rasa Von Werder

William Bond

Yes, most men have no idea about what pleases women, and most women don’t seem to know themselves, or if they do, don’t tell the man.

VoiceofmotherGod RasavonWerder

We don’t tell men because when it’s time to have sex IT IS TOO LATE. Furthermore we don’t want to hurt the guy’s feelings. Women do a lot of pretending during sex, pretend they are exciting, pretend they are orgasming, all to make sure his pride is not hurt. But that does not help us. The reason men don’t know how to make love the time to learn is when the men are young – & they’re supposed to be taught by older women. The older women aren’t intimidated by the young guys, they give them instruction & make them do it. After they learn & practice a while, they do what they know automatically to other women, of all ages. But it must begin with the older women – young women carry no authority, they just go along with the male & the males haven’t a clue. So women are frustrated & miserable. I explained this thoroughly in my old woman, young man books but did not go into any instructions. To teach a man in a normal situation is extremely tricky – when at times I started to teach, they lost their hardon. Why? Because their pride is hurt. You have to go past that stage. The one who teaches is not always the one who gets the benefit – the next lady gets the benefit.

William Bond

The most awful thing is women faking orgasm. No wonder men get confused and get the wrong idea about sex, when women do this. The result is that with his next woman, if she doesn’t fake it, she gets accused of being frigid. So it is all a big mix-up.

The problem is that sex is not openly talked about and I agree women do need to have authority and be able to freely speak up and say what they want and do not want. There has to be proper communication between sexual partners.

VoiceofmotherGod RasavonWerder

Women fake orgasms ALL THE TIME – including me in the past, but no more. Since I stopped the males get depressed, sullen, morose. They need to think they are powerful in turning women on, giving them orgasms, they need ego gratification, & women want the men to stay, so they pretend they are excellent bed partners when they are actual failures. The last few guys I had sex with, I saw how when I did not fake orgasms, they did not even want to have sex any more! Why? Because they felt powerless. I wanted to give instruction, but there wasn’t time, we had to do this or that, or they just left, or we had a quota of photography to fill, it was all done “on the run” – one night stands. Instruction takes time. During instruction, the male has to humble himself, but they are legends in their own minds, convinced that the liars they have humped are having sensational orgasms, even multiple orgasms, all the time. It is a delusion women nourish in order to feed men’s egos. The man cannot admit he actually knows little or nothing–he cannot admit he is sexually ignorant because that makes him feel weak.

William Bond

I think many men cannot admit, that they have been fooled so many times by women. If a man has sex with a number of women who fake orgasms then when he meets one who doesn’t, he must wonder what is going on. The whole thing is a mess. Back in the early 20th century it was believed that women could not have orgasms. So if a woman had a orgasm she was a pervert. Then men were told that women could have orgasms so they began to expect it from their partner. But what they were not told is that many women can’t have an orgasm from vaginal sex. So women ended up faking it. Creating even more confusion. Yes, we do need to have proper sex education, about all this.

Rasa Von Werder

But what you said regarding how it used to be, how it turned out, is interesting. Puts some light on the subject. I am really glad I am having lots of sex with lots of males because I need this, not just for fun, but for research. I will help others through my experience, & as we agree, it will help men as well as women. Yes, women have been lying to men for generations. You simply cannot imagine how the boys swear to me on a stack of scriptures, how they make women come, make them squirt (no such thing) touch their G-spot (no such thing) & now, they swear many women love anal sex. In the void of old women teaching young men how to have sex you have pulpits & porno, all against women. Porno has made both males & females shave their crotches – very unhealthy. Porno tells men to hump women anally, that the anus is as good as a vagina, so women & men are obeying porno. It’s the men who watch this & request or demand it of females, the females try to oblige as it seems any loving is hard to find (men have become increasingly sexually dysfunctional). Women are getting the scraps from the table, they feel lucky to have a guy humping when he gives it away to his hand in front of computer porn, or else to each other (males have been turned bi & gay through molestation). Women are giving unprotected sex to men – in risk of AIDS & death – anally is the worst enemy which invites AIDS. The anal sex is painful & degrading — all this for these porno-taught men who will go elsewhere if U don’t give them what they want. I have heard stories that men are so depraved, they don’t care how ugly a woman is, as long as her name is PAM. Pam means she gives him pussy, anal & mouth. So if Ur Pam, you have a steady fukk buddy for life. Yes, it is a mess, with men ruling the world. Let’s bring this mess into the open & change things around, make sex beautiful again for women & men.

I might add that it is extremely difficult to change patterns, thoughts, ideas & compulsions. Many guys are addicted to porn & its teachings, it’s a religion. To change their religion will take effort. It’s not like they’re standing around saying,

“Hey, I’m just waiting for someone to come along & teach me how to please women.”

No, they take the route of least resistance, the path they have been on since they were pre-teens (average age they begin is eleven!), convenient porno. Porno is the dirtiest & most persistent teacher of sex to young males since videos & computers came into being. This is what we are fighting. To win against this will take a lot of time. But when the women wise up, not to cooperate with males, not to give them what they want (if it’s bad) – that’s the only time men will learn willingly, because they might not be satisfied with their hand & the other guy forever. Men are, really, totally dependent on the energy of the female, called the Shakti, Mother God energy, the nurturing, the energy they don’t have, that other men also lack. The deficit of this energy is what makes men crazy, insane, homicidal, suicidal, substance abusers & sexual failures. It’s all about the woman, their lives do depend on the energy of the woman, her name is Mother God, her name is Shakti, the Feminine Divine. However males have twisted other males, to regain Life & normalcy as Mother God intended he has to go back to her.

the Theme is Sex – William Bond & Rasa

William Bond

In the end it is still another part of women empowerment. This wouldn’t happen if women didn’t have confidence and authority to speak up for themselves. I suppose the way porn is expressed is just a refection on the fact that men are still the dominant sex in our society. The only way this is going to change is to empower women so they can confidently speak up for themselves and say exactly what they want and expect from men.

Rasa Von Werder Another problem is that in this Patriarchy males feel they will not be “manly” if they are not dominant sexually. What does sexual dominance mean? They think it means what porno teaches them or the Patriarchal movies that show men sexually dominating women. The one that is dominant is the one that must be pleased – first anyway. Certainly, the other person might get pleased afterward. Here is a crux of the problem. He thinks,

“If I am a man, she has to serve me. And of course, I am so exciting, so powerful, she moans & groans & comes every time, by my licking her vagina a few seconds, then humping her.”

This is the Patriarchal theme. Of course, by the woman faking helps nothing. Step one for women is stop faking – start instructing. But this is difficult in Patriarchy as his feelings get hurt. How to do it? There has to be a start. I have tried, it’s very difficult even though I am older, they much younger. I want to be pleased, but it is so hard, almost impossible, as I am the first woman that ever objected to conventional sex, the rest lied—made him feel great. When I tell him they were faking, he thinks I’m jealous!

There has to be a beginning. Our website is a beginning. It’s simply an alternative teaching tool. If we push this long enough, hard enough, get enough people to read what we have to say, we can change sexual conventions.

Again, the dominant theme is crucial. Who dominates who? We of course, say female dominates male. It is practically impossible for the woman to be pleased or orgasm in the conventional blow & hump. Does it matter a woman be pleased or is it all about men? The world is changing, it does matter, always has, but now men will have to comply. They will finally have to buckle down & please women not just to have a happy woman, but to have a woman, period. Women are getting fussier, more powerful, more dominant! They are gaining economically, getting authority. Soon they will judge males for sexuality & other non-security qualities. Males will be seeing women the opposite – as security objects. Men will have no choice, they will pleasure or perish. Please the woman or have no woman – no woman of value anyway.